Reasons You Might Want to Find Out the Gender of Your Baby
Finding out the gender of your baby in advance seems to have become quite a divisive topic in recent years. Some people have strong feelings about whether it is right to find out the sex of a baby in advance, and some just feel it’s nicer to keep it a surprise.
Having the option to be informed whether the baby is a boy or a girl at your 20 week scan is actually a relatively recent occurrence, with women from my mum’s generation not being given the choice. As with most things when it comes to parenthood, it is largely down to personal opinion. I personally have found out with all three of my children. For me, it was a mixture of practicality and impatience thrown in together. However, these are some of the reasons you might want to…
Becoming a parent is huge and involves a lot of change. When you are pregnant and trying to prepare for a new arrival, it can all feel quite overwhelming, not knowing what to get and what might be a waste of money. Although lots of people nowadays like to avoid gender stereotypes with pink and blue clothing, it can still be practical to know whether you are expecting a boy or a girl, especially for those having a second baby who perhaps would like to reuse clothing and equipment from their first, as well as allowing the family to make important decisions for the future
such as siblings sharing rooms.
Although hugely taboo, gender disappointment is real and can be extremely hard to cope with. Feeling a strong desire for a child of one sex, for whatever reason, and having the other can be hard to accept right away. By finding out prior to the birth, there is more time to process this and find peace and acceptance in time for baby’s arrival.
Involving Siblings & Other Family Members
It can be difficult for siblings to come to terms with a pregnancy and the imminent arrival of a new baby. Talking to them about their new brother or sister can really help them understand, and finding out the sex may allow children to associate more with the baby. It can also help other members of the family to feel a bond with the baby and to share the excitement of the parents.
Deciding on Names
For many new parents, deciding and agreeing on a name for the baby is quite a challenge. There are so many names that one parent might dislike for whatever reason, and the decision can be a tough one. Finding out whether the baby is a boy or a girl can help narrow the choices down a little, and being able to refer to the baby by name before they arrive can be a comfort for those struggling to feel a bond before the birth.
It’s Something to Look Forward to
Pregnancy is long and can sometimes drag. Your due date can feel like a dot on the horizon and in more complicated pregnancies, it can feel like one hurdle after another until you get to hold your baby in your arms. For some, finding out the gender is something they can look forward to, a milestone in the pregnancy that can keep their spirits up and give them a
pre-birth celebration. Gender reveals have become popular of late, and having something to share with loved ones can make all the difference.
Did you find out the gender of your baby in advance? Perhaps you preferred to keep it a surprise for the birth or as something to spur you on during labour?
Emma-Louise is a guest blogger and creator of Even Angels Fall. She lives in Bournemouth with her husband and 3 beautiful kids. She writes about beauty, weddings, food, style & motherhood.