When your child has a meltdown, especially in a public place, it can make you feel quite stressed and anxious. When those said meltdowns feel like they are happening multiple times a day, it can make you wonder if you are doing something wrong. The first thing to remember is that every child has tantrums- it is a natural part of growing up and learning the boundaries, and it is a way of expressing their emotions.
Here are our top tips for coping with those meltdowns…
Talk to your child and try and find out why the tantrum is happening
Sometimes it is hard to get anything out of them, especially if they are in full on meltdown mode, but try and talk and reason with your child to see if you can find out why it is happening. It may be that they are tired or hungry, anxious or jealous. It won’t always work, but in some cases simply chatting to them might well helo.
Try to understand your child’s anger
We all feel angry or stressed at times, even adults, but we have better was of dealing with our emotions. Try and accept that your child is bound to have ‘off’ moments, where life seems a bit too hard and tricky, even if it is over something silly. Sometimes if you accept that these things are going to inevitably happen, it can make the situation feel that much more bearable.
Find a distraction
Sometimes you can distract your child before it gets to the tantrum stage. When you are out and about it could be something like pointing out something interesting.
Wait for the tantrum to stop
Even though it is hard, try not to lose your temper as this will only make things worse. Also giving in will not always help, as it will mean that your child will learn that by having a meltdown it will get him what he wants. If you are at home, as long as your child can’t hurt themselves, it might be worth going into a different room for a few minutes and wait for them to stop. If you are out and about it is harder, but stand your ground and try to ignore the fact that other people might be watching. The best thing you can do is stay calm. You can guarantee that their children will have done so before, so the looks will only be of sympathy.
It can feel draining at times, but rest assured this period your child is going through is just a phase. There is lots of other advice and support online to help you as well.